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and in our entire lifespan, we never met more than 150 humans." Mating opportunities for horny cavemen and cavewomen were obviously very, very different from the ones we have today.
"We’re not programmed to be exposed to so much sexual opportunity," Walsh said.
Ask them to do the same, and then date each other exclusively for 90 days.
This way, there's sufficient time for sparks to fly and chemistry to develop -- all that good stuff you see happen in rom-coms.
Whether you're swiping for ~cuddles~, for love, for friendship, for validation or for absolutely nothing whatsoever (hey, Tinder's a great way to kill time), your addiction might be giving you something wayyy worse than a sore thumb. But we've never had this many options before in human history, which makes Tinder an "evolutionarily novel" environment, Dr. "We spent 50,000 years roaming the savannah in groups of of not more than 35 people, maybe up to 40," Walsh explained.
Swiping impulsively over and over -- which is a feature of nearly every dating app now, not just Tinder -- could actually be affecting our brains. Wendy Walsh, who specializes in the psychology of love, sex and gender roles, told MTV News why having so many fish in the sea may be less awesome than we think it is. "Most of the people in these groups that we roamed with were related to us ...
"Know what you’re looking for and advertise it," Walsh said.
While most people received a handful of messages to factor into their score, there were some fun outliers: For instance, one woman in New York received 1,504 messages over the course of the study — approximately one every half hour.
With the desirability of senders determined, they found that people tended to go for partners about 25 percent higher “up” in the dating hierarchy, creating what these researchers call the “desirability gap.” Essentially, this gap describes the gulf between your own score, and the score of someone you think is worthy of your attention.
"I don’t care if you only have 140 characters, put that in there so you’re very clear to somebody from the top.
Then, as soon as you start texting [say] ‘I know Tinder thinks we're a match because we like the way each other look, but I’m telling you this is the kind of relationship I’m looking for.’ Make them go away if it’s not appropriate." When you find someone you kinda sorta like, Walsh advises, say goodbye to Tinder (and all those other dating apps blowing up your phone).