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When he minimizes or avoids the topic, however, it suggests that either he has not yet worked through all the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance); or, he hasn’t yet hashed through the legalities (or possibly even begun). He can’t just flick it off his shoulder as he would a bug. Anger is a normal and healthy phase for your separated man to go through.This is a man who once loved his wife, believed in marriage and the family dream, and committed himself to making it work. But that doesn’t mean it’s your job to deal with it, especially when he might be stuck in this state indefinitely.Some people say they are separated, and are still fully involved with their former spouse, working out the details of a divorce, maybe, discussing child custody, planning to sell the house, maybe.One man said he was separated, but in reality, that meant separate bedrooms, same house. One man (35 years ago; I was young) made me hide when his ex came over to leave something for the kids’ next visit. One guy was mortified when I said in passing that I didn’t date married men, and he knew he hadn’t finalized the divorce and he had been misleading me. I didn’t, but he did finalize the divorce within two months. If he was the victim: Depressed, angry, and mistrustful.If your separated man was cheated on by his wife, these fallout emotions will likely rear their heads in some form as you get to know him.For the number of men who claim to be destitute and “victims of an unfair legal system”, you’d think there’d be a line-up of trucks parked by the Bow River with separated dads living out of them.
I would be gravely concerned about a man’s character if he did not want to fulfill those commitments. Whether he was the perpetrator of infidelity or the victim, the tailwinds of cheating bring an ugly stench to the divorce process.
More often than not, it’s anger, self-pity, and feelings of entitlement that fuel a man’s complaints over support. So if you decide to stick around, I’d recommend you prepare for more than a nose full.
He might feel he deserves more of a say, more over how she spends the money, among other things. If he was the perpetrator: Though some experts say, “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, I personally think that some people can learn from past mistakes.
Though his reasons for cheating were probably very valid and real to him, he and he alone decided to problem-solve his unhappiness by betraying his wife.
If he continues to blame his wife and doesn’t express remorse, it means he hasn’t taken responsibility for his actions and will feel more entitled to cheat again (on you).