American dating an australian
Well, I’m generalizing, but I have heard more than one American woman say, “How can I possibly date Franco? ” Logically, I guess I can see both sides of this argument.In fact, there are times when I wish I could be more “Italian” in my attitudes and behavior.I miss my family, but I don’t think I will ever go back to Italy. Yes, we Yanks and Aussies are more pragmatic, for better or worse. I guess for an American or Australian, “normal” for man is rough and careless and…masculine.Excessive attention to clothes and grooming and accessories are considered feminine qualities in our countries.And since I arrived, the food culture has really improved. Most Italian men don’t seem as burdened by those concerns, for some reason. S., we’re taught to be self-reliant as soon as possible, often moving out of our parents’ house at age 18, never to return. He spends more time in front of the mirror than I do!An Italian can really get by now—10 years ago I used to struggle to find crusty bread and a decent coffee. I won’t get into the whole “” discussion, but it must be a lot easier to prolong your adolescent attitude and behavior if your society is enabling (encouraging! Then there are bills to be paid and fortunes to be made, so who has time to play cat and mouse with every pretty girl? What an American or Australian might call “childish” (a negative connotation), an Italian might call “child-like” (a positive connotation, implying something filled with wonder and closer to the essential human condition). ” Which would be considered “normal” for an Italian man, so it’s no surprise that she’s shocked when her Australian date shows up in shorts and flip-flops.
The important thing is that she’s an Italian girl in her 30’s who has been living in Australia for 10 years, and she’s STILL trying to work out the rather large cultural gaps when it comes to dating, courtship, and social protocols in general. Her situation gives her a unique perspective that, in my opinion, is very instructive for foreign men in Italy hoping to “get lucky” with Italian girls.
“How to date an Italian,” for some reason, is the most common search that drive Googlers to my site.
Actually, many of the keywords that people enter into the search box are not appropriate for me to repeat.
Pay attention, fellas, because we are doing it all wrong! Canada, and other “Anglo” countries, probably including Northern Europeans, as well.
Well, I already knew that we were doing it wrong, but this reader explains “how.” I guess I should also point out that this discussion mostly includes Italian women with men from Australia, the U. Men from other parts of Mediterranean Europe or South America might not struggle as much. So what I’d like to do here is to present her comments, and then offer my observations in response.